Love Reset Day is the day after Valentine’s Day, when many people have a disappointing “Moment of Truth” in their romantic lives, which leads them on a journey of self-love.
What happens on the day after Valentine’s Day? While the 14th focuses on love, Feb. 15, Love Reset Day, is about reconfiguring your romantic decisions. When your love life has gone awry, Love Reset Day is the time for you to focus inward and show yourself some love. If self-love is what you need, today is the day for you.
History of Love Reset Day
Created on Feb. 15, 2018, Love Reset Day is the brainchild of Carla Lynn Hall, owner of the blog DatingRelating.com. Keenly interested in the machinations of romance, Carla writes that she’s spent the better part of a decade interviewing and coaching women about their relationships. Working on her own and as a group moderator for Katarina Phang’s Secret Feminine Magnetism group on Facebook, Carla seeks to breakdown the dynamics between male and female relationships. In 2015, after witnessing an increased amount of wedding engagements from the women in the Facebook group, Carla felt that she had come to a realization. Women coming to the group did so because they were anxious about a romantic partner and needed some help in dealing with their feelings. To Carla, an engagement meant that a woman had “re-focused on her own well being,” and transformed herself. This transformation, according to Carla, is the definition of a Love Reset.
More on a Love Reset
Love Reset Day, as Carla puts it, comes right after Valentine’s Day when people often face major disappointment in their love life. She states that an unsatisfactory “cuffing season” can be just the reason why a Love Reset Day might be just the kind of day a person needs to empower and inspire themselves in improving their romantic choices.
“Cuffing Season,” is the concept that during the colder seasons (Fall/Winter) humans tend to couple up, or “handcuff” themselves to a mate, for that time with such relationships likely to end come Springtime. The scientific literature has yet to define or officially categorize this concept, but interest in the matter has persisted in recent years. Check out The Guardian’s two-cents on the issue, and if your interest is sufficiently piqued, go in for the deep dive. And make sure to check your sources! The information is only as good as where it comes from, dear reader.
Reasons for why you might need a Love Reset:
You haven’t heard from your partner in some time (days, weeks, months) and it’s making you anxious
You feel that you need to hear from this individual or else (fill in the blank with a terrible something)
You’re in a dating rut
You’ve just experienced a break-up or fight with your partner
You caught yourself pursuing a certain somebody and need to step back and relax
You feel uncentered and ungrounded
You’re uncomfortable being alone
You’re jealous and territorial
The relationships you’re in is on uncertain terms
Ways to Celebrate Love Reset Day
Write a love letter--to yourself!
Hangout with friends
Reconnect with an old friend
Take a dance or fitness class
Wear clothes that make you feel fabulous!
Have a good cry. We can all stand for a solid tear-letting now and then.
Treat yourself to fancy dinner. Table for one? You bet your fur!
Stay in and spoil yourself silly
Get a massage
Buy yourself flowers
Scream into a pillow, because why the heck not?!
Think of Love Reset Day as a recalibration day. If you feel your love life is on the rocks, take a minute, hang back, and focus upon yourself for a bit. A moment of self-recovery might be just what you need to get back on track!